Accept That Christmas May Feel Different After Loss

Coping with bereavement during the holidays can feel especially difficult. 

Usual routines are disrupted and the focus on joy, celebration and togetherness can make your loved one’s absence feel even more poignant. Familiar traditions that once brought you cheer may now stir up deep emotions and a longing for the person you miss. 

It’s completely okay to step back from Christmas. Don’t feel pressure to go through the motions or risk becoming even more emotionally drained. 

If you do want to embrace the season, then go for it. Experiencing moments of happiness does not diminish your grief; it’s possible to experience joy and sadness at the same time. Just be gentle with yourself and take breaks when needed. 

Sharing Your Grief With Others

Sharing how you feel can provide comfort and reassurance. Talk to friends or family members who will listen with patience and understanding, without passing judgment. 

Be honest about what you need, whether it’s talking about your loved one over a cup of tea, sharing memories, or simply having a bit of company. 

Remember, grief is deeply personal, so share in your own time and in your own way. 

Maintain Gentle, Supportive Routines

The holiday season can disrupt usual routines, making self-care harder. Eating regular meals and getting enough sleep are crucial to both physical and mental wellbeing. 

Spending time with friends or family, or volunteering, can also create a sense of connection and purpose. 

Some days may feel harder than others – but it’s important to make time for yourself, doing activities that help you feel better.