What do I say to someone on the day of a funeral? In this section Do I have to come into branch to arrange a funeral or can it be done from home? How long do funerals last? How much does a funeral cost? What do I say to someone on the day of a funeral? What do I write or say on a funeral wreath, flowers or in a card? When can we collect our loved one's ashes? Finding the right words to say to someone on the day of a funeral can be challenging. There is no right or wrong thing to say but offering words of comfort can make a difference. You might say, 'I’m so sorry for your loss' or 'I’m here for you when you need support.' The key is to be sincere and let them know that they are not alone during this difficult time.